I had another incident with my male Indian nurse Friday, which carried over to today. Friday one of the Unit Managers wrote a disciplinary action for him for 2 serious offenses...failure to give a medication, and failure to properly monitor an IV infusion. Actually these were both termination offenses. I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt..offer more training and counseling, my managers are against it, but being the boss I get the last word.

He has several excellent qualities and I feel is definitely trainable. His biggest weakness is asking for assistance with something he just don't get..mainly, which he won't admit too, is because the managers are women.

Well Friday in serving these disciplinary actions he didn't take it well at all, but better than the last time I talked to him. At least he agreed to sit down this time and listen to what I was telling him. At least when the 2 other managers were in there.

Well the meeting ended and he was to follow the inservice director for immediate inservicing on IV's...which he did for about 10 feet came back in the office and closed the door so it was just the two of us.

Well at that point he got in my face and asked why I am not treating him like a man. He told me you do not give men disciplinary actions. I am supposed to treat men with respect and tell them what they are doing wrong. That in his country women treat men with more respect. Alrighty then.

I've said before I don't quite respond well when I feel threatened, so at that point I took a step towards him as I pushed him away. Which he continued to try and rant at me...until I told him to shut the hell up. To make a long story short, I gave him a rapid education that I was his boss, woman or not, and he could leave at any time he so chooses or if he continues to screw up it will be at my choosing. I reminded him that in this country...and this is the US, not HIS prior country, nursing is predominately female and no matter where he goes he's probably going to be working under a female. If he can't deal with that it's time to change fields. With that I told him to get the hell out of my office or leave the building. He chose to go back to work.

Well this morning he came in to talk to me and said that the Unit Manager who he is currently working under lies and he doesn't want to work under her anymore. I told him when I had an opening on another unit, he could move.

Well his wife works there also, has for years and is an excellent nurse. There hasn't been any problems because I keep them on separate floors. So today he informs me "You move my wife, I'll take her unit." Of course I told him it doesn't work that way. He says, I'll tell her to move. I told him no he won't.

Anyway..he wasn't threatening today, but he's supposed to be decide by tomorrow if he's going to quit. At this point....good riddance.

Damn it, but I think my managers were right this time.