I posted earlier about feeling bummed. Trapped in my job. Then I read Kate's post on Electric Venom. I could of wrote that post 10 years ago. What she posted is sick thinking. What I posted earlier was sick thinking.

We have choices, more choices than we let ourselves see. We may feel trapped in our relationships, our jobs, our life. We may feel locked into behaviors - such as caretaking or controlling....
The sense of being trapped is an illusion. We are not controlled by circumstances, our past, the expectations of others, or our unhealthy expectations for ourselves. We can choose what feels right for us, without guilt. We have options. From the "Language of Letting Go" by Melody Beattie.

I was whining because I feel trapped in my job.

Kate feels trapped and said it herself:
As a woman - well, I'm just plain ol' fucking tired. I'm tired of being all things to all of the people that I love, all of the time, all of it with the expectation that I'll give 100%, and always with the knowledge that whatever I do - and whomever I do it for - I'm going to fail because nobody - nobody - can give 100% to two, three, even four things simultaneously. It just can't be done.

And I'm angry.

Sometimes we can't see that we have choices, and unrealistic expectations of ourselves. We get angry and depressed and really don't know why, not being able to see that we hold the key to unlock the mess.

Kate's right, she's not perfect, none of us are. Until she actually gives herself permission to not be perfect...Kate is going to be miserable. Just like I was.